Resources

A Place to Pause

A growing library of articles, reflections, recommended books, and practical tools for healing, spiritual formation, and the care of the soul.

Whether you're navigating a difficult season, seeking to deepen your faith, or simply looking for encouragement, I hope you'll find something here that meets you along the way.

For your own journey

My hope is that you'll find something here that meets you, wherever you are.


This is a gathering place: readings, practices, and gentle companions for the seasons we all move through. Some are here for anyone to find. Others live in the private space, for those walking a particular path.

Emotional Wellbeing

    • Healing Damaged Emotions by David Seamands

    • Emotionally Healthy Spirituality by Pete Scazzero

    • The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

    • I Thought it was Just Me by Brene Brown

    • Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

    • Rising Strong by Brene Brown

    • The Gift of Self-Compassion by Kristen Neff

    • Dying to Change by Mary Pytches

    • Don’t Let Your Emotions Run Your Life by Spradlin

    • Living From the Heart Jesus Gave You by Shepherd’s House

    • The Anxiety Cure by Archibald Hart

    • Lies Women Believe  by Nancy Leigh DeMoss

    • The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie

    • Healing For a Woman’s Emotions by Paula Sanford

    • The Disappearing Girl: Learning the Language of Teenage Depression by Dr. Lisa Machoian

    • Me, Myself and Lies by Jennifer Rothschild

    • Into Abba’s Arms by Sandra Wilson

    • Anatomy of the Soul by Curt Thompson

    • Joy Starts Here by E. James Wilder

    • Outsmarting Yourself by Karl Lehman

    • Created for Connection by Sue Johnson & Kenneth Sanderfer

    • Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson

    • Boundaries by Henry Cloud & John Townsend

    • Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller

    • Don't Call it Love​ by Gregory Jantz

    • ​Wired for Love​ by Stan Tatkin

    • How Can I Get Through To You by Terrence Real

    • The Emotionally Destructive Relationship by Leslie Vernick

    • Don't Forgive Too Soon by Dennis & Matthew Linn

    • Safe People by Henry Cloud

    • Safe Haven Marriage by Archibald Hart & Sharon Hart Morris

    • Changes that Heal by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

    • Love is a Choice by Hemfelt, Minirth and Meier

    • Telling Each Other the Truth by William Backus

    • Open Hearts: Renewing Relationship w/Recovery, Romance and Reality – Carnes, Laaser and Laaser

    • Emotionally Destructive Relationships – Vernick

    • Parenting From the Inside Out – Siegel and Hartzell

    • No-Drama Discipline by Daniel Siegel & Tina Bryson

    • The Whole Brain Child​ by Daniel Siegel & Tina Bryson

    • The Connected Child​ by Dr. Karyn Purvis

    • Parenting Teens with Love and Logic – Cline and Fay

Trauma and Healing

Mindfulness and Meditation

  • The Mindful Christian by Irene Kraegel

  • Flourish by Catherine Hart Weber

  • Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation by Dan Siegel

  • The Anatomy of the Soul by Curt Thompson, M.D. (Christian worldview of mindfulness)

  • The Mindfulness Prescription for Adult ADHD: An 8-Step Program for Strengthening Attention, Managing Emotions, and Achieving Your Goals by Lidia Zylowska

  • Meditation - Document below is taken from Tricia Rhodes' book, The Soul at Rest.

  • Lectio Divina is a process of centering using Holy Scripture.  Below is a document that explains the process and the practice.  Click here for a link to Ruth Haley Barton's article.

Grief and Loss

    • Weep With Me, Mark Vroegop

    • Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy - Mark Vroegop

    • The Psalms as Christian Lament, by Watke, Houston, & Moore

    • Be Still My Soul, Nancy Guthrie

    • Suffering is Never for Nothing, Elisabeth Elliott​

    • Praying our Goodbyes, Joyce Rupp

    • Recovering from the Losses in Life, Norm Wright

    • A Decembered Grief, Harold Ivan Smith

    • A Grief Observed, C.S. Lewis

    • Healing Life's Hurts, Dennis and Matthew Linn

    • Tear Soup, Pat Schwiebert & Chuck DeKlyen

    • Grieving a Suicide, Albert Hsu

    • How to Recover From Grief, Dietrich and Steele

    • Through a Season of Grief, Bill Dunn

    • Every Bitter Thing is Sweet, Sara Hagerty

    • A Grace Disguised, Jerry Sittser

    • Hinds Feet on High Places, Hannah Hurnard

    • The Problem of Pain, C.S. Lewis

    • Helping People Through Grief, Delores Keunning

Spiritual Formation

    • Sacred Rhythms, Ruth Haley Barton

    • ​Life Together in Christ, Ruth Haley Barton

    • Spiritual Disciplines Companion – Johnson

    • Spiritual Disciplines Handbook - Adele Calhoun

    • Invitations from God - Adele Calhoun

    • In the Name of Jesus, Henri Nouwen

    • Renovation of the Heart, Dallas Willard

    • Invitation to Journey, Robert Mulholland 

    • The Deeper Journey, Robert Mulholland

    • Coming Home to Your True Self, Albert Haase

    • Forming- A Work of Grace, David Takle

    • Buchanan, Mark, The Rest of God

    • Fadling, Alan, An Unhurried Life 

    • Sabbath, Dan Allender

    • Keeping the Sabbath Wholly, Marva Dawn

    • The Rest of God, Mark Buchanan

    • Rhythms of Rest, Shelly Miller

    • Sabbath, Abraham Heschel

    • Sabbath:  Finding Rest, Renewal and Delight, Wayne Muller

    • Mudhouse Sabbath, Lauren Winner

    • Living the Sabbath, Norman Wirzba

    • ​The Sense of the Call, Marva Dawn

    • The Way of the Heart, Henri Nouwen

    • Into the Silent Land, Martin Laird

    • Oceans of Light, Martin Laird

    • Armchair Mystic: Easing into Contemplative Prayer, Marc Thibodeaux

    • Invitation to Solitude and Silence, Ruth Haley Barton

    • Everything Belongs, Richard Rohr

    • Holy Silence, Brent Bill

    • Interior Castle, Teresa of Avila

    • Journaling as a Spiritual Practice, Helen Cepero

    • Thoughts in Solitude, Thomas Merton

    • Holy Listening, Margaret Guenther

    • The Joy of Listening to God, Joyce Huggett

    • Wilderness Time, Emilie Griffin

    • The Soul of Desire, Curt Thompson

    • Befriending Our Desires, Philip Sheldrake

    • Strengthening the Soul of Your Leadership, Ruth Haley Barton

    • The Holy Longing, Ronald Rolheiser

    • Life Together, Dietrich Bonhoeffer

    • Concerning the Inner Life, Evelyn Underhill

    • Praying with Body and Soul, Jane Vennard

    • Honoring the Body, Stephanie Paulsell

    • Equal to the Task, Ruth Haley Barton

    • Soulful Spirituality, David Benner

    • Eat This Book, Peterson

    • Opening to God, David Benner

    • The Fire of the Word, Chris Webb

    • Shaped by the Word, Robert Mulholland

    • Invitation to Journey, Robert Mulholland

    • The Deeper Journey, Robert Mulholland

    • Coming Home to Your True Self, Albert Haase

    • Till We Have Faces, C.S. Lewis

    • The Gift of Being Yourself, David Benner

    • The Way of the Heart, Henri Nouwen

    • Your Personality and the Spiritual Life, Reginald Johnson

    • The Enneagram, Richard Rohr and Ebert

    • Spiritual Rhythms for the Enneagram, Adele Calhoun & Claire Loughridge

    • The Discerning Life, Steve Macchia

    • Hearing God, Dallas Willard

    • Weeds Among the Wheat, Thomas Green

    • Sleeping with Bread, Dennis & Matthew Linn

    • Let Your Life Speak, Parker Palmer

    • A Testament of Devotion, Thomas Kelly

    • Pursuing God's Will Together, Ruth Haley Barton

    • Finding God in All Things, William Barry

    • The Voice of Jesus, Gordon T. Smith

    • Consider Your Calling, Gordon T. Smith

    • Crafting a Rule of Life, Steve Macchia

    • The Deeper Journey, Robert Mulholland

    • The Active Life, Parker Palmer

    • A Lever and a Place to Stand, Richard Rohr

    • Contemplatives in Action, William Barry & Robert Doherty

    • The Just Church, Gary Haugen & Jim Martin

    • A Hidden Wholeness, Parker Palmer

    • Good News about Injustice, Gary Haugen

    • Life Together in Christ, Ruth Haley Barton

    • The Return of the Prodigal Son, Henri Nouwen

    • Prayer, Timothy Keller

    • ​The Joy of Listening to God, Joyce Huggett

    • Praying Our Goodbyes, Joyce Rupp

    • Living the Lord's Prayer, Albert Haase

    • Praying in Color, Sybil MacBeth

    • Praying with the Church, Scott McKnight

    • When the Well Runs Dry, Thomas Green

    • Surrender to Love, David Benner

    • Clinging: The Experience of Prayer, Emile Griffin

A note on these lists: I don't endorse every idea of every author. Many of these writings are valuable to engage with in our own process of growth, even where we might disagree.